Things to consider when moving with children

Moving to a new community and school may produce stress and anxiety for children. Moving away from friends, familiar surroundings and being introduced to a new school can be difficult. The cause of stress can vary according to the age of the children.

Younger children

Younger children who are in the process of exploring their independence from their parents and are adjusting to new peer groups may find themselves returning to a dependent relationship with their parents.

Older children

Children who are more grown-up may have more difficulty leaving close friends and peers and may repeatedly protest the move. Some ask to move in with friends in their hometown to complete the school year.

What to look for

Signs of depression or distress should be monitored. If deemed necessary, consult with your family physician or pediatrician. They may be able to assist or provide referrals for physicians in your new location.

Steps to make moving easier for children:

• Openly explain to your children all of the details of the move and why you are moving, well before the move takes place.
• Get information on your new town or city including schools and children’s programs. Discuss them with your children.
• Create a pen-pal package that is addressed to their special friends on pre-stamped envelopes they can decorate. Older children may prefer e-mail.
• Discuss advantages of the new location with your children according to their interests, such as nearby amusement parks, museums, zoos, skate-park, etc.
• If possible, take your children on a tour of your new town or city and home before the move to acquaint them with their new surroundings.
• Discuss decorating ideas for your child’s new room. Perhaps a memory door decorated in your favorite photographs from the location you’re leaving.
• Pay attention to what your children have to say about the move and address their concerns.
• Keep to your children’s daily routines as closely as possible.
• Don’t pack your children’s favourite belongings until the last minute.
• At your new location, visit the school to speak with counselors about orienting your child to the new environment and programs.
• Advise of any special interests and inquire about clubs or programs.